Creating The Life YOU Want
Copyright © 2005 Chris Jackson
This is an overview of the creative process that I hope will
trigger your curiosity and lead you to further question your
personal understanding of how you create your life. I believe it
is important to state from the outset that whilst this process
does follow Universal laws it also unfolds uniquely through each
individual; my purpose here is to share my experience and invite
you to continually question your beliefs and motives around this
Who am I to offer advice? Well I am one who lives a happy, full,
balanced and peaceful life with a beautiful loving family and an
income quite sufficient to meet my needs. I have been consciously
creating my lifestyle for 10 years and am now refining,
developing and sharing my understanding of how you to can live
the life of your dreams.
The bottom line in all this is that "Thought Creates",
began initially as an idea or impulse in somebody’s mind.
truth of this is easy to recognise consciously. For instance,
suppose you want to build a house. First comes the idea and
desire to build a house, then that idea is nurtured and refined
until the house is designed and drawn on paper. Then using the
structure defined on those plans you and various trades people
manifest your idea into three-dimensional physical reality as a
house. I have thought this article into existence, and we are
each continuously creating both consciously and sub-consciously
with our minds. There are many books on this subject with an
excellent first book being Louise Hay's "You Can Heal Your
However, I urge you to really sense inward at what feels true and
applicable to you as you read this text or any books; what works
for Louise may not be the precise way for you. Her books, and
everyone else's books on the subject for that matter, are simply
the author’s interpretation of the process, their experiences,
not yours. Your task is to adapt the processes and teachings so
that they fit into your life perfectly and effortlessly. It is
finding your power and your truth that will really bring an
element of effortlessness and confidence into the process as you
become ever clearer as the creator of your life dream. What is
your truth as you read this, how do you react, what is stirred
within you? Look at these questions lightly, with quiet curiosity
and have fun with them.
Step one is to observe your thoughts and feelings on what you
wishing to create or manifest. Are you focusing on what you want
or what you do not want? Always focus on what you want and notice
how uplifting that feels relative to focusing on what you do not
Watch the intent behind your thoughts and language carefully.
example, can you feel the subtle but profound difference in the
relative creative strength and clarity of stating, "I want
all my bills by the due date this month" as opposed to "I
want to be short of cash this month"? Or look back at a situation
where you were faced with a whole range of choices (such as
clothes shopping) but felt confused or undecided. It is only when
you clarify what you want or are looking for that you are finally
able to make a clear choice. Without that clarity you feel
confused, frustrated, or thwarted even. You will rarely get
anything you want if you only know what you do not want. You need
clarity of desire, feeling and motive to create efficiently.
Is what you are wishing to create based upon a belief or feeling
of fear and lack, for instance wanting a lot of money in order
feel totally secure or safe? Money can only bring security in
limited areas of your life. True security comes with the presence
of a feeling of faith and trust that up wells from deep within
you, in really knowing that you are in the perfect place (in each
and every moment) from which to create the next moment of your
experience of life. As Eckhart Tolle reminds us in his book "The
Power Of Now"
"Realize deeply that the present moment is all you ever have."
Accessing this full peaceful awareness becomes easier with
practice and an increasing clarity of intent and desire to feel
it. Have you really considered though, how many awful or
difficult situations you have been involved in that have not
finally, in hindsight, turned out to be for the best, even if
only for the wisdom you gained from the experience? Now, you are
really going to struggle with manifesting your longings if you
not truly believe that you deserve to have them fulfilled. A
positive belief in your deservedness is key; without it your best
efforts may prove fruitless and you will find crisis and self
sabotage continually thwarting you. How can you draw the perfect
job, partner or lifestyle into your life if you do not really
think and feel (both consciously and subconsciously) that you are
deserving of that?
A key part of manifesting work is re-programming and clearing
your negative beliefs, fears and judgments that block your sense
that you deserve happiness or abundance. This means, in part,
focusing on your strengths above your perceived weaknesses and
continually recognising your successes. Truly celebrating every
success however small. By doing this you lift yourself into a far
more energised and positive mental and emotional state from which
to create; when you feel positive your creations and experiences
reflect that. Make a point of choosing to adopt a happy outlook.
Practice recognising the abundance all around you, rejoicing in
the exuberance of nature, celebrate the good fortune of others,
and seeing what is right, hopeful and encouraging in the world.
Nurture what you want in yourself and applaud the successes of
The life creation process is really quite simple.
- Clarify what it is you are wishing to manifest.
- Determine why you want, feel, need and deserve this.
- Set quiet time aside to allow yourself the full feeling of "knowing" that
this desire is now on its way to being fulfilled in your life.
- Do whatever personal practices you require to maintain your
positive attitude and feelings of faith and optimism high.
- Continually note what action is required on your part to
bring your creation into existence and act upon it. Right thought
to right action; you will have to get some things done. Think
- Feel - Do
Some of many examples from my life:
- After a series of mostly fun but ultimately failed
relationships I finally sat down and wrote down what it was I
was seeking in my perfect partner. A couple of months later I
wife to be and the mother of our two children on my first and
only blind date about five hundred miles from where I live.
- When I started my business some thirteen years ago I had
one small project that barely paid the rent. However I simply
the time was right and that somehow something would turn up.
I then got a “chance” phone call, in the nick of
time, that lead to
a project that financed the full start up of my business and
established me strongly in the market.
- I have at times taken on projects where I have not had the
skilled staff to complete them. People with the necessary
skills have always phoned asking for a job and I now have a workforce
that is almost entirely self-managing.
- My partner and I sat down to decide on the new home we wished
to live in. A few months later a property came on the
market that fit the bill very closely and as it was leasehold
- A couple of years ago I was faced with two huge tax bills
(for more than triple my total annual earnings) following
problems with un-profitable yacht projects and a dispute with
authorities. After discussions and negotiations these
bills were very substantially reduced and although I had to sell
assets. I also had business projects become profitable
and the bill was paid.
As I have worked at understanding my beliefs, my fears, and the
workings of this creative process, every area of my life has
quickly become richer, more peaceful and fulfilling. I am sure
yours will also. •
About the Author
Chris Jackson is successful businessman as
well as a highly trained therapist. He runs The Abundance Site
which highlights our creative process and inspires others to
risk living the life of their dreams.
His site can be found at: www.theabundancesite.com