The Surrender of the Ego
By Edwin Harkness Spina
Almost everyone knows someone that professes to "know everything." These
people are never wrong, seldom accept advice and once they stake
out a position, they will do anything to defend it. At best, they
are perfectionists. At worst, they can become delusional as they
fight to avoid being wrong by reinterpreting events that would
otherwise cast them in a negative light.
Most people with large egos are reasonably successful. Their
followers stroke their egos, which makes them difficult to deal
with. When trouble surfaces, the temptation is to sit back, wait
for "the fall," and gloat when "he gets what he
deserves." But when you come across such an individual,
try not to deal too harshly with him. The universe is setting
him up for a dramatic lesson that will hopefully propel him forward
in his spiritual evolution. His ego is about to be crushed, but
once he recovers he will be better off for it.
Recently, I saw this firsthand. Mr. Perfect was a detail oriented
businessman who was unable to delegate and dismissive of advice.
He was directing a project that was heading for disaster, but
refused all forms of help. At the last minute, he was "ordered" to
accept help. An extremely gifted individual, Mr. Helper, came
in at the last minute, but was unable to save the project. Everyone
involved commented on the awesome contribution Mr. Helper had
made and how lucky Mr. Perfect would be to have him on his team
as they moved forward.
Mr. Perfect had a different opinion. Rather than accept any fault
for the project's failure, he argued that he would have succeeded
if it hadn't been for Mr. Helper. To make matters worse, he issued
an ultimatum: either he or Mr. Helper had to go. No one could
talk him out of his irrational position. Mr. Helper is now running
Mr. Perfect's desire to be right drove him to "cut off his
nose to spite his face." It seemed to trump all logic including
But from a mystic perspective, this was completely logical and
Mystics recognize that the subjugation of the ego is a necessary
step towards enlightenment. Remember, the goal of a mystic is
direct communion with God. As you attune daily with your divine
aspect or Master Within, your goal is eventually to align your
will with the will of God. To do this fully, the ego must surrender.
To surrender the ego does not mean that you become a meek, little
doormat that invites abuse. Quite the contrary, when the ego
is subjugated to the will of God, you become a spiritual powerhouse.
You become fearless in confronting people in positions of authority
for, in effect, you are now speaking with God's voice.
On the other hand, the ego has no interest in you attaining your
full spiritual potential. The ego wants to be in charge. It will
create all sorts of rationalizations to keep itself in power
and prevent such a shift. It's similar to a politician rationalizing
why he supported a bill that was not in his constituents' best
interest. "If I don't vote for it, then the next guy will,
and then I won't be around to fight for my constituents when
a more important issue arises." That's the difference between
a politician and a leader.
Surrendering the ego can be even more difficult for someone that
has attained a high degree of success in his life. The star quarterback,
rock star, business mogul or political figure all possess worldly
power. They have fans, shareholders or followers that idolize
The biblical adage that it is easier for a camel to go through
the eye of a needle than for a rich man to go to heaven, would
be equally true if "business mogul," "politician" or "celebrity" were
substituted for "rich man." The point is that people
that are admired are much more reluctant to surrender the ego
than someone with much less to lose.
At the same time, as spiritual beings living a human existence,
the Master Within drives all of us to evolve. The eventual surrender
of the ego is inevitable. If the conscious mind/ego does not
pay attention, the message gets louder. If it is ignored, then
eventually, a critical point will be reached and a meltdown will
To avoid a meltdown, consult the Master Within for advice on
a daily basis. When your connection becomes strong enough, you
will become infused with spiritual power. Rather than a meltdown,
others will look to you for guidance, because they will recognize
that you speak the Truth. •
© 2005 Edwin Harkness Spina 10/02/05
About the Author
Edwin Harkness Spina is the author of the award-winning
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