Why Positive Thinking
By Julie Plenty
There was someone
I used to work with who, well aware of their tendency to
look at the negative side of things, used to constantly tell
themselves to "think more positively".
This was said
with such a feeling of desperation that I just knew that not
only would they NOT think positively, they would probably go
into negative thinking. The mere fact that they kept pushing
themselves to "think positively" was a sign that this
would ultimately be
So many of us have interpreted the desire
to be positive thinkers in a very
narrow and ultimately ineffective way.
The push to be positive often results in
ignoring our true feelings. Instead of recognizing that we don't
always feel positive and
to convert and turn round our feelings, it so often ends up with
The Law of Attraction,
as defined by Abraham Hicks states that "you
to yourself what you give your attention and energy to, whether
One reason why
positive thinking doesn't work is that our focus is in the
wrong place. So we say "I don't want to be ill" and
believe that this
thought will prevent us from being ill. So where is our focus?
ill! Because the Universe doesn't recognize "not" or "don't".
times have you told yourself NOT to forget something and then
Oops you've forgotten it!
Another reason why positive thinking doesn't
work is that we often veil our
negative feelings with a positive surface.
So we say "I want a loving
Sounds good right?
Underneath this is the hidden message that having a loving relationship
wouldn't even be an issue — unless you'd been in one or a
series of not so
So it's the hidden message and negative
feeling around it, that is still
coming through. Ultimately, you're still pushing against something
still counterproductive. You're likely to attract more unloving
relationships, even though you THINK you've stated otherwise.
How can you begin to reverse this? Rather
than focusing on your thoughts,
focus on your feelings about a given situation or what you would
situation to be. Start to visualise and sense what you truly
on ramping up good, positive, energetic feelings about what you
rather than the thought.
can do this by building a "creation box" of
notes, to stimulate your imagination of how you'd like things
Appreciating life's abundance in what you already have by keeping
appreciation journal, feeling and acting like the prosperous
actually are and channeling your good feelings into what you
In fact, instead
of being a positive thinker, aim to become a positive
feeler - it's much more visceral and real. Live your life as
already have what you desire and you'll make way for it to come
to you. •
© 2004 Julie Plenty
Julie Plenty is a Personal and
Business Coach who helps creative professionals develop a strong
personal foundation and
the success of their business. For more self growth articles,
free ecards, visit: www.self-help-personal-development.com.