Life, The Greatest Ride of All
Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein
Life is the greatest roller coaster
ride we will ever take. The ups and downs, the unexpected changes,
the twists and turns,
are all a part of living. The roller coaster ride of life can
be miserable and uncomfortable or exciting and rewarding. Our
states of mind and body are key factors in how we handle these
changes. The problems of life do not go away magically. We have
to consciously work on making our lives more positive and joyful.
Once in an ENCHANTED SELF
workshop, one woman related a story about her Thanksgiving dinner.
She had recently suffered a painful
and unexpected breakup with a boyfriend. Although she was experiencing
grief, she had a strong inner desire to reclaim her sense of
and move forward with her life.
It was interesting to
hear her speak about the family meal. As she looked around at her
extended family seated at the table,
she became filled with love and felt the love reflected back
her. It was then that she made a conscious choice to stay focused
in the moment, to remain in a loving state and to share that
with those around her.
There were some inner
struggles during the course of the evening because Thanksgiving
held poignant memories for her involving
her ex-boyfriend. When these memories surfaced, she deliberately
chose to put them aside. After the family gathering, she confidently
exclaimed, "I won!"
Her conscious decision
to remain in a positive state of being, coupled with the feelings
of love that she felt toward everyone,
were the most critical factors in staying focused in the moment.
She had triumphed because she did not succumb to feelings of
depression and pity. Like Dorothy in The Wizard of Oz when
clicked her heels and said, "there's no place like home," she
realized that the things she was searching for — strength,
and happiness — could be found in her "own backyard."
The support and love that
comes from our family and friends, as well as the inner strength
we develop when we get to
accept ourselves, was right there.
We will always tussle with
dark thoughts and the negative sides
of our personalities. Sometimes there will be unpleasant
in our lives, but we can choose not to let these things
our sense of self-dignity and worth. When we make conscious
about how we will respond to difficult situations,
we feel empowered.
For that moment we are in
charge of our destiny. Nobody ever
said that achieving positive states of mind and body
but then again nobody ever said it was hard. It's a
focusing on the positive, and self-education.
Positive memory retrieval
is the tool that enhances our ENCHANTED
SELF journey. Reaching a positive state of inner
and outer harmony
is the essence of THE ENCHANTED SELF. One way of
state is to give love and support to our selves
and to others.
Let's make this year a year of growth, peace, harmony
Exercise: Heightening Our Experience of Pleasure
This exercise is designed
not only to help you remember and validate positive aspects of
your past, but to emphasize
the need to stay
more attentive to positive happenings in the
present that may
Were there moments in your
childhood when you felt particularly
happy? These moments can be from any age — from your earliest
memories through young adulthood. When you
find a golden memory,
savor it. See yourself at that age and experiment
different senses reconnect to that happy
What was going on at that moment?
What were you feeling inside?
How did your body feel?
Were there any aromas?
How did things look around you?
How were you acting?
What was the weather like?
What was the scenery like?
Were you with anyone?
What was it like to be with
Take time to really enjoy
this happy memory. Now scan your memory bank and the most recent
past to see if you can think of one
that you enjoyed doing in the last
week. Give yourself permission
to relive through your memory that
pleasant time. Again, use
all of your senses to reconnect
you with that wonderful experience. •
© Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein
About the Author
Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, originator
of THE ENCHANTED SELF®,
a method of bringing delight
and meaning into everyday living,
invites you to view her new line
of ENCHANTED WOMAN products,
downloadable e-books, and free
gifts at www.enchantedself.com.