A New Conversation About Dreams
Integrity: The Key to Getting What You Want
By Marcia Wieder, America’s
The most critical attribute for realizing our dreams
is integrity. In a conversation about dreams, integrity is essential
be summarized this way: Say what you mean and mean what you say.
Honor your word and agreements and you will be living with integrity,
where dreams really do come true.
Simple, yes, but not always easy. Vastly overscheduled,
often the person it’s most difficult to keep our commitments
yourself. As you practice upholding your values, you are given
opportunities to show up or to sell out. When you are challenged,
do you lose sight of what matters to you? Do you have an internal
pulse, a set of conscious principles that you live your life by?
you are committed to a life of joy and abundance, filled with
love, generosity and contribution, integrity is a must. Integrity
creates trust and accountability. Surrounded by crowds, you can
feel lonely if you’re not true to yourself. Without integrity,
you can have great wealth and still feel worthless. And lacking
integrity, you won’t trust yourself or have faith in your
When we leave things unresolved or incomplete, we
are out of integrity. You can recognize something as incomplete
by how you
feel about it. Is the matter settled? Do you worry about it? How
is it impacting other areas of your life? When you are complete
with something you don't even think about it. There is no agitation
or energy wasted.
It’s up to you to decide if something is incomplete or
it’s difficult to focus on future dreams when you are consumed
by your past. Incompletions can be notorious and contagious as
one leads to another. Buried under burdensome annoyances we can
feel lost, afraid or confused. Take Jake for instance. He didn't
pay his taxes for two years. The IRS put a lien on his assets,
so he was labeled a bad credit risk. He couldn't buy a house
or rent an apartment. Eventually he lost his credit cards. He
was caught in a downward spiral that also undermined his confidence
and self esteem.
Linda let her parking tickets pile high and never got around
to paying them. She became afraid to drive her car because she
might get towed. Concerned about driving to work, she eventually
lost her job. A small detail led to a bigger concern, which led
to an even worse problem.
Carol had a room in her home that she called the "black hole," filled
with incomplete items. Since she and her husband were trying to
sell their house, she knew it was time to tackle that project.
She came up with a list of over one hundred "items to do." They
included returning things she had borrowed, writing letters, even
mailing back an inexpensive bracelet she had stolen from her local
drug store when she was a teenager. It took some time and effort,
but with each item she handled, Carol felt lighter and freer.
Within a few weeks of completing her list, they easily sold their
house. Completion creates freedom.
This powerful process of exploring what’s
been left unsaid, undone
or incomplete in your life is one of the most awesome things you
can do to free yourself and have more access to your dreams. If
undertaken to the best of your ability, this may be the most profound
thing you have ever done.
Look at all these important areas and use this formula
as a guide to scrutinize your life. The areas to explore (but are
to) include your body, mind, home, work, finance, and people
- Write down what you feel incomplete about with anyone or
- List what you need to do to complete it.
- Complete as many items
How do you complete
something? You may need to write a letter or make a phone call.
You may need to forgive someone or just
declare "it's over." On some items, you might need to
project plan or you might not even know yet. Just do your best
to get rid of anything that is weighing you down.
Removing clutter will give you greater clarity
and energy for
the things that are important to you. As you complete what
can, feelings of pride, accomplishment, and peace of mind,
motivate you to take on even the tough things. Free to move
now you can tap into the flow of life. The more your life is
order, the faster and easier your ability to manifest dreams
become. It's just that simple. •
© 2005 Marcia Wieder
About the Author
Marcia Wieder is a best-selling author and speaker who is known
as America’s Dream Coach®. She’s known for giving inspiring and
moving talks to AT&T, The Gap and American Express. She appeared
several times on Oprah and The Today Show. She’s also a syndicated
columnist for The San Francisco Chronicle. For more information,
to receive a free audio e-book, "Jump Start Your Dream", or to
join her community of Dreamers, visit www.dreamcoach.com.